If only certain species are stunted but others grow well then we cannot make the argument that "all" plants are hard to grow in hard water. I also don't think that you necessarily need to resort to low tech just because two species are not growing in the high tech tank. Why would these two species be any easier to grow in a low tech tank filled with hard water? I suggest we abandon this reasoning and instead try to focus on learning how to have success with our high tech first.
Do you imagine that all low tech tanks look as nice as erwin123's tank shown above? It takes just as much skill and learning to grow plants in low tech as it does in high tech.
For reference, the images shown in the EI tutorial was not a soft water tank. The GH was more than 26 and the KH was more than 20. The water was more comparable to Lake Malawi and much less comparable to the Rio Negro. There were over 70 different species in that tank and none of them gave me any trouble.
Here is Pogostemon stelleta in that tank. Think about how large the rosettes are compared to the size of the fish, which are perhaps 4-5cm:
The plant grew so large and so quickly that it became a nuisance and started smothering the rest of the plants in the tank.
This is what P. stelleta looks like with maximum CO2 and maximum nutrition:
So this should put to rest any doubt regarding P. stellata in hard water.
If you have trouble growing P. stelleta then it means you have a fundamental problem in the tank, and this problem has nothing to do with hard water. As mentioned by Ian_M you must always suspect a CO2 fault when you have trouble in a tank. Some day you will truly believe this and when you do it will make you a better plant grower.
All of us have had difficulty and all of us had ignored the truth, then, wasted time and energy investigating false paths.
Have you done the pH profile and have you been able to drop the pH by 1 unit by lights on?
What you can also do is to move the plants to another location in the tank to see if they perform better at the alternate locations. You can also float the stellata at the water's surface for a few weeks. Sometimes this helps the plant to get started, and then when you see new growth you can then re-plant it.
Having 30ppm in the water column really means nothing because 90% of what we inject escapes the tank at the top. This is one of the reasons hobbyists often do not recognize that CO2 is at fault and they instead pursue other factors.
Cheers,